Men love to act like women are some impossible puzzle in bed. Newsflash: the code isn’t that hard to crack—you just have to pay attention. Forget the tired clichés about “long foreplay” or “buy her flowers.” This is about what actually matters between the sheets.
1. Respect, Not Performance
Women can smell ego-driven sex from a mile away. If you’re trying to “perform” like you’re auditioning for Pornhub, she’ll see right through it. What she wants is respect: pay attention to her cues, treat her body like it’s hers, not a prop in your highlight reel.
2. Communication (Yes, That Means Talking)
“Does this feel good?” “Do you like it slower?” “Harder?” These are not weak questions—they’re sexy as hell. Women want men who communicate without being awkward about it. Silent fumbling like you’re cracking a safe? Not hot.
3. Foreplay That Isn’t Just a Quick Pit Stop
Clue: foreplay isn’t just revving her engine—it is part of the main event. Kissing, touching, teasing—women want men who understand anticipation is power. If you’re racing to penetration like it’s the Indy 500, you’re missing the entire ride.
4. Confidence Without Arrogance
Confidence = knowing what you’re doing and being open to learning more. Arrogance = assuming you’re God’s gift to women because you made one ex moan once in 2012. Women want partners who own their sexuality without bulldozing theirs.
5. Variety and Curiosity
Missionary has its place, but if that’s your only move, you’re basically offering vanilla ice cream on repeat. Women want men who aren’t afraid to experiment, try new things, and make it fun—not a choreographed routine.
6. Aftercare Isn’t Optional
Here’s the underrated secret: what you do after sex matters just as much as what you did during. Whether it’s holding her, laughing, or just making sure she feels safe, aftercare separates the men from the boys.
Bottom line: What women want in bed is simple—respect, attention, and a partner who actually gives a damn about her pleasure. If you think sex is just about your orgasm, congratulations—you’re doing it wrong.
